THE BIG INDIAN WEDDING SCAM

East is constantly stared upon by rest of the world, particularly west, for morals, value systems and religious beliefs. Hundreds, probably thousands, of them travel to east in search of peace or some sort of enlightenment. And, INDIA has always been favorite country when it comes to the moral hunt.

One thing that has always been held high by India like a shining trophy is its institution of arrange marriages and customs that believe in tethering two people together for life. Hinduism, alone, describes eight types of marriages. Among them, arrange marriage is the most popular and favored way of deciding two human’s fate in India. Our ancestors, probably, choose to arrange their kid’s weddings with the notion that if they marry them in good families (qualities of ‘good family’ largely remains unknown till date, so it’s basically based on hunch), since good families are expected to produce good sons which undoubtedly are supposed to make good husband. Same goes for girls. (OK. I will stop with history, now!)

Marraige

While I am more than glad to be born on the land of saints and sages and had my mouth fully stuffed with all morals and Hindu beliefs at tender age just like every other Indian, I was just caught by surprise when I recently learned about the hollowness of the whole so-praised-by-west value system of ours.

The ancient logic has clearly failed to live through modern times. Recently, one of my friends got interviewed by a prospective family. While the guy was shy and probably suffered from peachy-soft-voice syndrome, apart from that he was pretty decent and didn’t really seem to care much about what was happening around (or so, my friend gathered). In India marriage is not just about gluing two people together, but more about gluing two families together. So, parents are the ones who lay all the ground rules of marriage. So, his mother did. His mother was really something. Sweet old women, teacher by profession, but extremely trained at clearly spelling what she wanted. Her requirement sheet had:

1. Girl who would get up at 5 and cook, since she’s a teacher and of course will be needing lunch.

2. Girl who would do everything on her own, without hiring help, because she is not a fan of not-doing-thing-on-your-own. (Neither I nor my friend are sure what it means exactly)

3. Girl who would bear a son. (Her son was her third kid after two girls, so it’s more than obvious. And people wonder how we became a nation of 1.237 billion people.)

4. Girl who would welcome their relatives. (Well, another bizarre thing. We are still trying to figure out what it means).

5. Girl who would bring shit load of money along as bonus. (Demands were obviously disguised in words like we don’t want anything but you should give enough to feel good about. Just one question! Who exactly feels good about giving their hard-earned-money away to someone else? Now, someone should make a movie called SCUMBAG-WANNA-BE-MILLIONAIRE-BY-MARRYING)

So, basically this was an opening for son-bearing-reproductive-machine cum maid cum shortcut-to-buttload-of-money. Phew! I am so glad she rejected the job. (Well, in case there are any takers, she doesn’t mind passing on the number.)

Since the time she told her experience, I have searched for those fucking morals and values that we, as Indians, choke upon right from the day we are born. Where are those much-talked-about-values in this whole business of marriage?

Marraige

On careful analysis, you would realize that arrange marriages are anything but a mere business transaction. Yes. You read it correct! For one, there is commodity of value involved: the groom. Two, money exchanges hand; money is showered incessantly by bride’s family (sometimes with more than eight zeros). Hence, derived. Arrange marriages are serious business. And, there are no real ethics in business. Are there?

No one knows exactly what they are buying. The groom seller obviously is busy painting the best picture buyer has seen. The groom is busy acting like product not reacting to dowry or anything else (It only makes sense, since that is what stationary things do). So, mostly someone is always getting scammed in this business.

No wonder domestic violence is an epidemic in India. What more can marriages based on printed numbers bring in a relationship otherwise considered so pious by Indians. Isn’t it time to put our modern education and ancient values to use by mending the flawed institution of arrange marriages? For starters, these are few new traditions we can encourage and practice without corrupting our shiny-invisible-morals:

1. Both sides split wedding expenses in half.

2. Make the day more about bride and groom, instead of making it about uncles and aunt and their expensive gifts that leave holes in bride’s father’s pocket.

3. Limit your guest list. For instance, chuck your neighbor’s neighbors. Just because someone else is paying for food, doesn’t mean you should invite every single person you know.

4. ‘Just Married’ car doesn’t always have to be extorted from bride’s family. No real pride in that. Its time your son bought one for himself, himself!

5. Groom’s parent should remind themselves every day ,at least once, that  their son did not get in good college and took up good job for someone else or so that someone could reimburse the cost with interest in future. Repeat more than once if needed.

This is not a write-up about lighting a torch up against dowry or arrange marriages. It is just a reminder of how we fail our value system everyday along with wise and old members of our society. It just explores the idea that maybe it’s time for us to act upon those morals we have been feed profusely and marry not based on money or requirement for maid.  Try love for a change or maybe companionship if nothing else.­­­­

P.S.: Beware of big Indian wedding scams!

FAST FOOD FASHION

Too many F words in one line is what happens when fast food junkies meet fashion junkies. Trend first saw broad day light when designer Ashish presented his Spring-Summer 14 collection at London fashion week, where he amalgamated his love for sequins and Coco Cola. His collection was inspired from daily objects found in local shops. Sequinned coco cola red t-shirt with ripped boyfriend is definitely coolest way to beat the heat this summer.Style Junkie

Found these cool coke t-shirt:

Jeremy Scott took this to another level with Moschino new Fall-Winter 14 ready-to-wear collection.  Budweiser, Frito-Lay and Mc Donalds made their debut as high-fashion prints.  And instantly became every celebs favorite. Who’s lovin’ it? Miley Cyrus has been tweeting selfies with Moschino french fries iphone case. Two, Rita Ora has stunned her fans on several occasions in the outfit from this junk food collection. And, my favorite, Anna Della Russo strutted streets during Fall-Winter 14 fashion week in knitted M-bearing dress. (All I can say #epicstyle)Style JunkieLook at those cute happy meal and soda glass bags.

Zara, Topshop, Forever21 and Asos have quite a variety of  fast food to chose. Which fast food merchandise would you be wearing.

COLORS OUT OF THE BOX

Just read an article listing Holi, Indian festival played with colors, as one of the weirdest and wackiest festivals in the world. Its like people not finding a painting articulate enough because they don’t understand painters emotions.
Holi is a festivals which allows people to paint the town (along with its people) colorful. Necessarily played with colors (water is optional).

Some Yellow.                      Yellow

Some Orange

Orange

Some Blue
Blue
Some Purple

Purple

Some Grey

colors

Splash them over people.
Coloful
And some more.
Colors
Till everything becomes extraordinarily colorful and artsy.Colorful
See why Indians love it! Holi literally brings out every color of life.Colorful

These images of Holi from various parts of India capture with excellence the rhapsody of colors.

[Image Via Pinterest]

DO THE TANGO

Bold and loud seems to be the theme of this season. Tops are cropped. Skirts  are longer. And, lips are orangey.

From neon orange (already seen at Rag N Bone) to coral orange (check Creatures of the Wind), citrus oranges are replacing reds. Any kind of orange lipcolor you pick, from bright to matte, is bound to enliven your pretty face.

Orange Kiss

Warm colored, cool colored, hardly matters! Tangerine shades work for all skintones. Do the TangoHow to get the perfect citrus pout? Here are the two best finds for coloring:

FALL14 RTW: THE PINK COAT

Though it is no news that women all over this planet are obsessed with the color pink. This obsession is set to thrive next fall in the form of pink coats.

Watch out for subtle tints of pinks, mostly any hue from dusty pink to shades of salmon.

Looks like Pinkaholics are in for a real treat.

FALL14 RTW: SHOEPANT

Recently added to our fashion dictionary is word:

Shoepant (sho̅o̅pănt)

noun
a covering for each leg from thigh to foot, typically made of leather, having a sturdy sole and reaching above the ankle.

Recently spotted at an array of Fall-14 runways, including that of peers like Just Cavalli and Fendi. Its been already flaunted by Leandre Medine of Man Repeller [see here].

Fashion apostles are likely to explore its utility next winter (since we are already waving goodbye to the present one) to reckon up the style quotient of a dress or to facilitate wear-ability of their favorite skirt or pair of shorts without turning themselves into ice statue.

Item to know: ShoePants

[Images: style.com]